My main goal in life is to raise a son that God Himself would be proud of. Someone who tries to be kind first, and selfish last. There are a lot of bad people in this world (well that was a very negative thing to say), but I want my son to contribute to the good. I want him to shine light on others lives, and to be someone that he is PROUD to be. With that in mind I wrote him this letter with the hopes to provide some values and ideals that I hope he follows.
Dear son of mine,
I love you. More than myself. More than this earth. I dedicate my life to give you the one that you deserve. You were my greatest blessing from God, and the only way I can come close to showing Him how much I appreciate His blessing is to make you a man that He is proud of, one He can call his own. I realize that I can’t do that on my own. So I pray for you everyday that He keeps you wrapped in his arms and protects you the only way HE can.
This letter is just a list of things I find very important for you to know. This isn’t a guideline of how you should live your life, or who you HAVE to be. They are just..suggestions. However, growing up with me I’m sure you’ll learn I expect my suggestions to be taken SERIOUSLY. (But it’s all out of love)
Love yourself. One of the hardest things in life to do is accept yourself for who you are. Flaws and all. And also remember that you are not perfect, nor were you put on this earth to be perfect. Don’t ever be afraid to love who you are. To love yourself is the only way to TRULY love others.
Uphold your faith in Jesus. Hold fast to your faith in The Lord son. There will be tough times in your life and you won’t think you have any strength or answers. This is when you rely on your faith. He will give you the strength to get through anything that He brings to you. Do your best to pray every morning and night.
Be a friend a friend would like to have. You can’t make it in this life alone. Good friends are huge blessings. They can provide the best umbrellas when life is raining. (If that made sense.) But be wary of who you call a friend. If they don’t treat you the way you want to be treated, they aren’t a friend. Good friends are selfless, humble, and dependable.
You always treat a LADY like a lady. Even if she doesn’t treat herself as one. Open her door, pay for her meals, tell her she’s beautiful. Don’t you dare raise your voice to her. If all else fails when you’re in a tough situation with the lady of your choice just think: How would I want a guy to treat my mom or sister?
Work hard at everything you do. Even if you don’t like what you do, be the best at it. Your work ethic is part of your character. Don’t let anyone think you’re lazy or afraid of hard work. You weren’t raised that way.
Respect your ma and pa. I have just always wanted to say that. I brought you into this world, and I can take you out. There will be times we won’t see eye to eye but remember every thing I do for you, to you, I do out of love. (unless I think something is just funny.)
Value education. Unfortunately you can lose money, clothes, and jewelry. Cars can be wrecked, toys broken. But no one can EVER take away your knowledge. So try to gather as much as you can.
FAMILY above all else. Yes they can be annoying, we fight and we argue. But family is forever and don’t forget it.
Love deeply and whole heartedly. Love is a beautiful thing. Do not toss that word around to every girl you think deserves it. When you love a lady you treat her with the upmost RESPECT. Communicate with her. Take her on dates. Show her she’s worthy of respect and loyalty. Don’t CHEAT!! You cheat on her, you cheat yourself. If you don’t want to be with one lady by herself, let her go.
This isn’t a rule, or a suggestion, or a tip. It’s an order. If a girl gives you her virtue, honor that. Treasure that. She gave you something that she can only give away once.
Respect your elders. All of them. Strangers or family. Your Granny and your Paw Paw love you. You show them respect at all times, and never say a word against them. Yes Ma’am, and No ma’am is something you say to show respect, not mockery. It says “I hear your wisdom and appreciate you sharing it with me.” (it doesn’t say that ALL the time, but still.)
Help others. Not everyone is as fortunate as you are. Don’t be afraid to give a helping hand. Whether it’s to a lady needing help in the grocery store, a buddy who is down on luck, or a stranger whose car has broken down. Treat people you would want to be treated if you were in their situation.
Be a Gentleman. Chivalry is not dead. It’s just a little injured. Be a gentleman son. Open doors for ladies, take out the trash. If you see an eldery person struggling with groceries help them. If you see a lady standing, offer her your seat. It goes along way, and shows your mama raised you right.
Use your words. Violence is NOT the answer. You do not use your fists to solve problems, you use your words. There is too much hate and violence going on in this world because people haven’t developed a large vocabulary. But if someone puts their hands on you, you defend yourself. And then you let mama handle it.
Eat healthy. You’ll feel better, look better, and will appreciate it later.
Read. You can live a thousand different lives if you love to read.
That’s it for now. This list isn’t in any particular order or design. I wish you a life of happiness and love son. I will do my best to bring as much as that to you as I can.
I love you son. To the Heavens and back.